Life has been so busy lately, full of social events, school, and spending time with family and friends. Needles to say, I’ve been way overstimulated by all the socializing that I’ve had to do lately. Its safe to say that I’m an introvert. In the past, its been difficult to admit, and sometimes I still wish I could walk into a room and be highly energetic like my extroverted friends, but introverts have a lot to offer and I thought I would share some of my thoughts about why its ok to be introverted and embrace your inner wallflower!
Introverts get a bad rap. People often think of introverts as standoffish, timid, or antisocial, while extroversion is seen as a highly valuable personality trait in both personal and professional life. The most challenging thing about being an introvert is the expectation of extroversion by society, and it’s been my experience that bubbly, enthusiastic, socially outgoing personalities are seen as standard. I used to feel like something was wrong with me for not being naturally extroverted as I prefer working with small groups or alone, I hate small talk, I really enjoy spending time alone to recharge, and I don’t like large crowds for too long. I tried for quite some time to become more extroverted and not surprisingly, it didn’t work. It actually just made me feel overstimulated and stressed out. The cultural bias against introversion is everywhere, and it makes it harder for introverts to live their truth, so lets examine some reasons why its actually really cool to be an introvert.
1. Introverts are highly creative people
Introverts are very introspective and are more interested in their inner world and imagination. In fact, many of the great intellectuals and creatives of our time have been introverts such as Van Gogh, Abraham Lincoln, and Albert Einstein! The ability to spend time alone and intensely focus on a particular project or idea makes introverts complex thinkers and deeply gifted people.
2. Introverts are great conversationalist
It is often believed that introverts are socially awkward and that they are not good at communication with others. Although it can be true that introverts tend to not prefer insignificant small talk, when introverts engage in conversation about topics that they are interested in, they can really light up the room! Deep and meaningful conversation is a strong point for introverts because they are so reflective and thoughtful, and very often the passion for things that are important will shine through when talking to them. Interestingly, there have been a few studies that demonstrate that introverts work really well in groups, can be very good public speakers, and in some cases are better at both than extroverts!
3. Introverts are good listeners
If you ever need a friend to vent to, the introvert is a great choice. Introverts listen deeply and intently, and they are focused on what the other person is saying, rather than listening simply to respond. Introverts take in what they are hearing and they evaluate it before responding rather than dominating the conversation, and this kind of reception in conversations is a special skill that makes introverts attractive.
4. Introverts make awesome friends
Small groups of friends and close knit relationships are important to introverted people. They place very high value on the people that are in their lives, and they take very special care of their friendships and relationships. Introverts are very loyal, as they prefer the familiarity of people that they are close to over meeting new people, and they value trust that is built and strengthened from spending quality time with their loved ones. Once an introvert becomes your friend, you have friend for life!
There are so many wonderful and awesome qualities that introverts posses, and the unique qualities that each of us have are what make the world such a great place to live! If it weren’t for the introverts in the world, we wouldn’t have some of the great art, literature, and advancements that we have today. Fully embracing yourself with no shame, regardless of what others think of you will lead you to a much healthier happier life. So trust me, its totally ok to hang out at home with a good book instead of going out to that party that you were invited to. Do what feels best for you!