I have a few questions for you. Are you happy with your life? Seriously, are you REALLY happy with your life? Are you reaching your goals? Do you feel like your life is headed in the right direction?
If you answered no to any of these questions, or maybe you are unsure of how you feel about the state of your life, I first want to let you to know that you are not alone. I’ve been there. I spent many years searching for meaning and purpose in my life. After trying to figure out what career to go after, trying to manage my relationships, and dealing with anxiety and depression, I felt lost and completely dissatisfied. I wasn’t sure where I was headed, and I felt like I wasn’t in control of my life. I’m here to tell you that those feelings CAN change. It look lots of hard work to get where I am today but trust me, If I can do it, you absolutely can too! I want to share some of the things that I have done that helped me regain perspective in my life that led to major changes. It was not an easy process, nothing worthwhile comes easy, but there are things that you can do to take actionable steps that help bring about positive change.
1.Stop comparing yourself to others.
Comparing yourself to others will set you back from reaching your goals. Be mindful that every single successful person had to start somewhere, and that they also experienced many failures before reaching the success that you currently see. The long hours, the fears, the setbacks, and the major effort that went into building their success took place outside of your view. When you are in the beginning stages of starting a new chapter in your life, try to stay focused on what you want to do, and try not to base it on anyone else’s timeline. No matter how late to the party you are, getting out there and dancing now is all that matters! Focus on your goals, be happy for the successes of those around you, and remind yourself that this is YOUR journey, not anyone else’s. You will reach your goals when it is your time. Believe in yourself girl!
2. Do the tough stuff first.
Do the things that you hate doing first, and save the easy stuff for later. I started doing this in college and it changed my productivity and my grades! When I had an assignment that I knew was difficult, I did that assignment first. As a result I was way less stressed out when my workload throughout the semester got heavier. My classmates who put things off would freak out during the semester and it was smooth sailing for me. I do this now with my work. Like you, I am a natural creator! I don’t want to spend time learning to do the technical stuff, I want to get right down to doing the things that I love.Unfortunately the tough stuff has to get done, and if you do them first, you can really sit back and enjoy the rest!
3. Let go of negative people.
This is a hard thing to do. Sometimes the negative people in your life are your friends, a family member, or some other person that you care about, but it is best to let go of people who are doing you a disservice. When you are entering a new stage in your life, you need people around you that are going to feed your dreams. Your goals are precious, and in order for you to successful you have to totally believe in yourself. People that make you feel bad about who you are and what you are doing should not have a place in your life. If you can’t completely remove someone from your life, or you don’t want to completely remove them yet, spend less time with them and don’t share your hope and dreams with them. Leave the concerns, ideas, and inspirations around your goals to your dream team; the people who support you, respect you, and who are honest with you. You may have a lot of anxiety about this, but remember that the only way to let awesome things into your life, is by making space for them. The right people will come, and you will meet wonderful people on your journey.
4. Simplify your life.
Figure out what the essentials are in your life. What do you need the most to succeed? Ask yourself what is necessary for you to reach your goals, then get rid of everything else that you do not need. Simplifying really helps to put things into perspective. Sometimes having to many options can get in the way of taking action and getting things done. When you have a handful of ideas that you really want to focus on, you can reach your goals and make major changes in your life. Focus on one step at a time, master that first step, then move on to the next one.
5. Find Yourself.
One thing that genuinely happy, successful people have that many people do not is a clear understanding of who they are. They are comfortable with who they are and what they do. Changing your life and reaching your goals will require an understanding of yourself. What are your values, what truly brings you joy, and why are you deciding to take the journey that you have chosen for yourself? Is it truly a reflection of who you are inside, or are you living your life to please others? If you don’t know who you are, you may find yourself doing things to fulfill expectations that others have for you, but not fulfilling your own desires. Previous goals that you have tried to go after may not have worked out well for you because you were not living your most authentic life. If you hate the work that you do, or you aren’t feeling very inspired by the path you have chosen to take, it might be a good time reevaluate yourself and your reasons for doing it.
Remember as you work towards your goals, life is journey and a process, not a destination! Being mindful of your journey and enjoying the ride is just as important as getting to your goal, and even when you reach your goals, there will always be so much more to learn and experience!